Six things introverts know to be true.

The aftermath though is that the book is published, and subsequently, there’s a launch and press tour. These were things I actively pursued – it’s part of the deal – but every single public speaking request, podcast feature, or even telephone interview, sent me into a state of panic, to the point that I genuinely considered cancelling several at the 11th hour (another very introvert thing to do). I then required a solid lie-down afterwards. Faking extroversion is tiring. 

4. You’ll be having the time of your life… and then you’re done. 

Contrary to popular belief, introverts do love to socialise. We’re just very specific about who we socialise with, where we socialise, and – most importantly – how long we socialise for. 

For every social occasion I plan or agree to, I’ll generally follow the same process – spend the preceding days super excited, followed by a few hours of pre-event regret, which kicks in a few hours before it starts, and continues until go-time. At that point, I flick another switch, and I’m all in – loving the interaction, sometimes even the life of the party, until… I’m not. 

There will come a time, where I’ll abruptly shift from social butterfly, to get-me-out-of-here. It’s a visceral response, at which point I become the person you probably thought I was when you first met me. 

5. The anxiety you feel when you ignore a phone call.

It’s pretty common knowledge that for many introverts (and many others) they will not answer their phones. But it doesn’t happen without a psychological consequence. It’s not simply a matter of ignoring the call and going about your business. No, when the phone rings, we’ll pick it up, stare at it, then contemplate the meaning of life while we tell ourselves we’re deciding whether or not to answer it (we’re not) — a thought process that differs depending on whether we know the number of not.