‘I landed a job with a $45k pay increase. One comment from my boss made me quit after 5 weeks.’

  • A fraught relationship with the key client.
  • I would train a new team member in a role I had no familiarity with.
  • I would also cover another team member’s annual leave for four weeks. Their role was a job I had no previous experience in.
  • The financial risk of missing key deadlines.
  • The risk of burnout.

In a move perfected by his stale, pale and male ancestors, my manager sat with his arms behind his head, as though he was relaxing at a Sunday BBQ, and told me, “Not to worry, just don’t take work home with you.”

The comment was almost as bad as someone telling you to “just relax” when you’re experiencing crippling anxiety or a panic attack. While I appreciated the sentiment of his statement, I felt like he just didn’t get it. I guess I could stop worrying and have no concerns at all. But, also… I couldn’t do that due to caring about my job?

By the end of the fifth week, my body was in fight-or-flight and I felt like a shell of myself. Juggling multiple roles, deadlines and incessant queries from every direction, I started to feel like my brain was short-circuiting. While working extra hours was an expectation of the role, managing multiple roles simultaneously was not.

A moment of clarity led me to hand in my resignation the next day. Actually, I would NOT do anything for $170K/year. Already seeing the impacts of the stress and lack of support on my physical and mental health, I decided to quit quickly and not give this company the benefit of the doubt.

The pay increase was fantastic but not at the expense of my health. Nobody deserves to work in a toxic environment. If you find yourself in the same position – leave as soon as you can. The longer you stay in a workplace filled with hostility, nonsense or chaos, the longer it will take for you to recover.

The author of this story is known to Mamamia but has chosen to remain anonymous for privacy reasons.

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